I know I bitch about this all the time. So if your sick of hearing it again don't go any further. Its the pregnancy comments again. I'm so sick and tired of people telling me I look like crap. Yesterday at work theres a woman giggling a few seats down from me. So my friend behind me asks her whats so funny? And she said "I'm just laughing at Sally's water retention". Nice. (This coming froma woman with no teeth). Why are people so mean? My friend later started to say "She didn't mean it that way...." and I cut her off and said "Please, find me another meaning for her laughing at my water retention, please I beg you to find me another explanation" and she said "Ya, I cant, I'm sorry, but you look great". Uh-huh. What is wrong with people? Its no wonder I have low self esteem, weight issues and zero self confidence. People tell me I look like shit all the damn time! They dont even try to hide it!. Now, I know Crystal and Judy my fellow former AAers will know who Im talking about by the "no teeth" comment and they will both say "Consider the source". And I would if it was just one person being an asshole. But its not one person, its not one isolated comment. It happens daily. "Are you sure theres just one in there?" followed by "or 2 or 3?" "OMG your huge!" "You look so tired" "You are so swollen" "Oh my gosh, look at your fingers, is that painful?" "you have how much time left?" or Zachary's laughing at me struggling to put my shoes on ..Those are just a few. I should start a daily post of these comments, you just wouldn't believe. Seriously, everyday someone puts me down. Of course I have Steve, who (lies) tells me I look beautiful and he helps me put my socks on. God I love him, he tries. He is so good to me and he's so sweet. Ive arrived at the point where Im really starting to hate pregnancy. I started off a little crabby about being pregnant 2 years in a row, and now I just want to cry all the time from embarrassment. Pregnancy is a miracle and should be a beautiful thing, yet every comment is negative. Every time I grocery shop, I think "God, please don't let me run into anyone I know". Again, dont get me wrong, Im so thankful for this baby, and we really wanted the little kids close in age. We are so lucky and I cant wait to meet her. Its not that I regret our decisions. Its just hard when your this pregnant and everything is a chore, and people laugh at you and make a point to tell you you look horrible. It tends to weigh on a girl. Pun intended. Point, laugh, stare, do what ya gotta do, but dont let me see or hear you. It hurts. I cant help my water retention. I cant help my bulging belly or my swollen fingers. I cant help that most of my shoes dont fit. Cant people just think about what their saying and say something nice for a change?
It just seems like I cant turn a corner without someone saying something. If its not rude, its dumb. Tonight I get to work and this woman yells from down the hallway "Nothing yet Sally?" Ya, lady, my water has broken and yet Im still punching in. WTH? You see me here and still pregnant do you? Then their are those that ask me if it was planned, as if its their business, and when I say Yes, they seem shocked, like "Why would you do that on purpose?". Ive been asked if I had fertility issues, and is that why I waited so long between the first two, Ive run into off color comments like "is your husband going to get you pregnant right after delivery this time?" Why is it A) anyones buisness and B) why would people be so nosey and rude?
I know, I know it will be over soon enough. But that wont make me look back on this pregnancy or the last as the miracle and beautiful experience it should be.
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You know me and my opinion of people in general. I think most people were given more air in their lungs to speak utter bullshit than brains anyway. I know there's not a whole lot you can say at work to be a smart ass back, but you do have an HR department and a lot of what you're saying IS harassment).
It is no one's business on any of that stuff you said. You are a beautiful and intelligent woman who does not have to tolerate that crap! I would suggest answering such stupid remarks with, "I'm sorry. That comment/question is just way to stupid for me to dignify with a response." Or you can just ignore it, because people like that obviously have no life! Or you could say, "I may be be pregnant/retaining water/have swollen fingers but in 4 weeks I'll be "back to normal" with a beautiful family and you'll still be a stupid sack of shit!!" I really hope I am with you when someone utters the next stupid remark!
Be proud of yourself, you're body is doing some wonderful things for this little girl! Most smart people get that and shut the hell up. People like that are shallow and probably don't have an ounce of love in their life like you do! You have a happy healthy family and lots of love. Live happy and "f" the rest!
You know I love you and are very proud of you! And you are beautiful, no matter what stage of life you are in!!
Oh, Shmoop! Seriously, you need to get over it. She is an AAer!!! What more needs to be said? Now lets go eat some ice cream and make fun of her and all the others, cuz thats what we do best!
OK I have to ask, Is no teeth the one who use to be buck false teeth? I have to say, you do need to consider the source. There is nothing more beautiful than a pregnant woman. If she had a brain she would be dangerous. If its who I think we all know her background and choices in life. LOSER...... but hey Crytal, not all of us AAers are as lame as her. Well Sally I dont spend much time on the internet these days, by the time I leave work I cant even look at a computer. Cant wait to see posts of the new addition, Im routing for a St Pats baby, my dads BDay not to mention Im Irish. MJ
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