Wednesday, December 12, 2007
THE CURSE CONTINUES
Why would I expect any different? With every baby that Suzie or I have brings a death in the same gender as the baby. I was pregnant with Zachary when my grandfather died (11 days before he was born). Suzie was pregnant with Paige when mom died (found out the day of her funeral). Suzie was pregnant with Joshua and Uncle Brian died, and then Ally when Aunt Lois died. While I already had Ryan, Uncle John died just a few short months after he was born. (The cancer diagnosis was while I was pregnant and he didn't even last 6 months).Now, pregnant with a girl, our aunt Joanne (Uncle Bobs wife) died in her sleep and no one has a clue even why. I dont know her exact age, but Im guessing she is in her late 50's or very early 60's. 4 out of 6 of these deaths are untimely. My mom and Uncle Brian being the youngest at 51. I swear aside from the Kennedy's, I don't know anyone else who has been to so many funerals in such a short time. (Not that I'm wishing this on anyone else.) And I'm only mentioning the ones who have passed during a pregnancy or a birth. Not to mention everyone else in between..Auntie Bet, and Juanita (my mother in law) are among the few, and those two women were very important presences in my life. Its gotten so common that whenever one of us gets pregnant were immediately wondering who is going to die. And its never like a distant cousin who's 100 and has lived a long life. Well, maybe Papa. Its always a close relative and either tragic, untimely or both. Even Aunt Lois who was old it was still completely unexpected and the circumstances surrounding it (me being the one to find her) made it tragic. Kim is now the oldest women on moms side of the family and she's in her 40's. And the oldest man? Moms cousin, whos in his 60's. Have I got that right Suz? I think I do. I just dont get it! Im a huge believer of "everything happens for a reason" but what the reason for us creating a life if someone else has to sacrifice theirs? Good thing this is the last pregnancy for both of us. Just let baby girl finish cooking and all will be well. We will probably all live to 100.
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I'm sorry to hear of her passing. I'd like to tell you it's not actually a curse, but I know you won't believe me, especially since you have so much to back it up. It's just unfortunate that at a time of great joy and celebration you have to contend with great loss in your family.
Something similar has happened on Dennis's side of the family too. I actually just realized it recently. Dennis's dad passed away shortly after learning of Jen being pregnant with Hailey (of course he had cancer as well as was in failing health) and then Jen actually told everyone she was pregnant with Alli the day Sandi passed away.
It sucks how it seems a life is created as a life ends. It would be easier to handle if we didn't have any idea who that life was that was departing us.
Dad seemed to not know about this and when I reviewed it all he said "Well that is a coincidence." But after 6 times, I wonder if someone cursed mom or us kids once. Seriously.
I used to worry about me dying but now I think of it differently. I think my pain will be to live old and alone. The witch says to Dorothy "The last to go, she'll see the other 3 go before her." Now I think that is my life. I will live a long lonely life.
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